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Re: [IPk] Re: Frustrated and fed-up...



Ingrid,
No offence taken and sorry if it sounded like that. I think it's more that I
know I shouldn't feel guilty but it's hard to change a habit of a lifetime!
I've spent so long of my time denying my diabetes to myself and everyone
around me, always making out it doesn't affect me and I can live, "a normal
life as long as I take care" routine. You learn to do that as a diabetic so
when it comes to writing down what's wrong with me, how it affects me and
who I have to rely on I felt so guilty within myself.
Hope that makes more sense!
Hilly
----- Original Message -----
From: "Ingrid Morrow" <email @ redacted>
To: <email @ redacted>
Sent: Thursday, March 15, 2001 5:38 PM
Subject: Re: [IPk] Re: Frustrated and fed-up...


> Hilly
>
> I am sorry if I made you feel even more guilty.  It honestly was not my
> intention to "judge" others, and I definitely am not doing that here.
Like
> I said to Di, if you have a disability, then you should get what you are
> entitled to!
>
> I truly am sorry for any misunderstanding.
>
>
> Ingrid
>
>
> >From: "Hilly Beattie" <email @ redacted>
> >Reply-To: email @ redacted
> >To: <email @ redacted>
> >Subject: Re: [IPk] Re: Frustrated and fed-up...
> >Date: Thu, 15 Mar 2001 17:11:56 -0000
> >
> >I wouldn't dream of applying if it wasn't for the extra complications I
am
> >now getting but I still feel guilty applying because as Diana said you
may
> >not get the help you ask for or intend to get it, but you are still
> >entitled. I am working at the moment but due to DM and complications (and
> >the depression I constantly seem to have now as well), I am worried I may
> >lose my job. Hence I am applying for peace of mind at present in case I
> >lose
> >my job...at least I will already be in the "benefits system". Diabetics
do
> >come under the Disability Act so I don't feel I am "labelling" myself
> >anymore than already. (It's the reason I have not been sacked at this
point
> >due to sickness levels, but I do agree to see an Occupational Health
> >therapist for work purposes)
> >One thing I am learning though is the forms can be hard as you have to
list
> >everything on a "worse case scenario" and that can feel like your
> >exaggerating your ill health. It is also quite hard as I spend all my
time
> >trying not to think of what I can not do etc and for this form (3 forms
in
> >total) you have to do exactly the opposite. I found it quite upsetting
> >which
> >surprised me.
> >My live-in partner has to do alot for me and  I expect what most of us
have
> >to do is rely on good friends and family.
> >----- Original Message -----
> >From: "Diana Maynard" <email @ redacted>
> >To: <email @ redacted>
> >Sent: Thursday, March 15, 2001 4:40 PM
> >Subject: Re: [IPk] Re: Frustrated and fed-up...
> >
> >
> > > Hi Ingrid
> > > I agree totally with you.
> > > But, as I said in my original post, I think it's very unlikelyyou'd
get
> >it
> >if
> > > you ONLY have DM and nothing else.
> > > If you have total hypo unawareness, that could be a different matter.
> > > I feel quite guilty about claiming it at all, even though I'm entitled
> >to,
> > > because I don't necessarily actually get someone to help with
everything
> >I
> > > theoretically need help for. If there's noone to help me get somewhere
> >at
> > > night, for example, I might go out on my own. I don't like to, because
I
> >do
> > > have difficulties and I feel very unsafe, but I *can* do it. Does that
> >mean I
> > > shouldn't claim for help with mobility? And a lot of things I put in
my
> >claim
> > > that I need help for, I get friends to do, but I don't pay them, I
rely
> > > on their generosity.
> > > it's a minefield of ethics......
> > >
> > >
> > >
> > >  On Thu, 15 Mar 2001, you wrote:
> > > > I'm a bit confused.
> > > >
> > > > I can understand claiming it if you have a "disability" caused by DM
> >(or
> > > > whatever), but I can honestly say I would not believe in claiming it
> >simply
> > > > because I have DM.  By your argument I could say that because I have
> >had
> >a
> > > > couple of severe night time hypos, I need someone to look after me
> >(thus
> >my
> > > > husband question), and thus I could claim it!
> > > >
> > > > But I am not disabled, and I am in fulltime work (I know I am lucky,
> >and
> > > > there are others a lot less fortunate than me).
> > > >
> > > > Does anybody else think this could possibly give Dmers a bad name?
> > > >
> > > > And don't they think it could backfire on them?  Because if you are
> >claiming
> > > > a DISABILITY allowance, wouldn't some people say that rules you out
of
> >a
> >lot
> > > > of things?
> > > >
> > > > I am sorry if I am offending anyone here, these are just my
> >thoughts....
> > > >
> > > >
> > > > Ingrid
> > > >
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