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Re: [IPk] Re: Frustrated and fed-up...


I am sorry if I made you feel even more guilty.  It honestly was not my 
intention to "judge" others, and I definitely am not doing that here.  Like 
I said to Di, if you have a disability, then you should get what you are 
entitled to!

I truly am sorry for any misunderstanding.


>From: "Hilly Beattie" <email @ redacted>
>Reply-To: email @ redacted
>To: <email @ redacted>
>Subject: Re: [IPk] Re: Frustrated and fed-up...
>Date: Thu, 15 Mar 2001 17:11:56 -0000
>I wouldn't dream of applying if it wasn't for the extra complications I am
>now getting but I still feel guilty applying because as Diana said you may
>not get the help you ask for or intend to get it, but you are still
>entitled. I am working at the moment but due to DM and complications (and
>the depression I constantly seem to have now as well), I am worried I may
>lose my job. Hence I am applying for peace of mind at present in case I 
>my job...at least I will already be in the "benefits system". Diabetics do
>come under the Disability Act so I don't feel I am "labelling" myself
>anymore than already. (It's the reason I have not been sacked at this point
>due to sickness levels, but I do agree to see an Occupational Health
>therapist for work purposes)
>One thing I am learning though is the forms can be hard as you have to list
>everything on a "worse case scenario" and that can feel like your
>exaggerating your ill health. It is also quite hard as I spend all my time
>trying not to think of what I can not do etc and for this form (3 forms in
>total) you have to do exactly the opposite. I found it quite upsetting 
>surprised me.
>My live-in partner has to do alot for me and  I expect what most of us have
>to do is rely on good friends and family.
>----- Original Message -----
>From: "Diana Maynard" <email @ redacted>
>To: <email @ redacted>
>Sent: Thursday, March 15, 2001 4:40 PM
>Subject: Re: [IPk] Re: Frustrated and fed-up...
> > Hi Ingrid
> > I agree totally with you.
> > But, as I said in my original post, I think it's very unlikelyyou'd get 
> > you ONLY have DM and nothing else.
> > If you have total hypo unawareness, that could be a different matter.
> > I feel quite guilty about claiming it at all, even though I'm entitled 
> > because I don't necessarily actually get someone to help with everything 
> > theoretically need help for. If there's noone to help me get somewhere 
> > night, for example, I might go out on my own. I don't like to, because I
> > have difficulties and I feel very unsafe, but I *can* do it. Does that
>mean I
> > shouldn't claim for help with mobility? And a lot of things I put in my
> > that I need help for, I get friends to do, but I don't pay them, I rely
> > on their generosity.
> > it's a minefield of ethics......
> >
> >
> >
> >  On Thu, 15 Mar 2001, you wrote:
> > > I'm a bit confused.
> > >
> > > I can understand claiming it if you have a "disability" caused by DM 
> > > whatever), but I can honestly say I would not believe in claiming it
> > > because I have DM.  By your argument I could say that because I have 
> > > couple of severe night time hypos, I need someone to look after me 
> > > husband question), and thus I could claim it!
> > >
> > > But I am not disabled, and I am in fulltime work (I know I am lucky, 
> > > there are others a lot less fortunate than me).
> > >
> > > Does anybody else think this could possibly give Dmers a bad name?
> > >
> > > And don't they think it could backfire on them?  Because if you are
> > > a DISABILITY allowance, wouldn't some people say that rules you out of 
> > > of things?
> > >
> > > I am sorry if I am offending anyone here, these are just my 
> > >
> > >
> > > Ingrid
> > >
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