Re: [IPp] family bed
I'm one of only a few parents I know of who still sleeps with their child
(at 11 years old) and I refuse to apologize for it. There are a couple of
times now that I've caught severe lows that I don't know how it would have
out if I weren't right there to test and take action. I can't even think
about it. Diabetes is nerve wracking enough for me to let the fact that my
child is sleeping with me be an issue. I would love for him to feel that he is
safe to sleep in his own bed, but the reality, it seems to me, is that he is
not. Everyone seems to find their own way to deal with this and this has been
ours. My son is well adjusted, an excellent student, and in no hurry to
grow up. In this day and age that is okay with me. My two cents. Deborah
Good Morning All,
I haven't seen this topic addressed in our forum but then again I only joined
about 9 months ago. My daughter is almost 12 and was diagnosed in December
Prior to diagnosis, Frances would crawl into bed with us during the night
2-3 times a week, usually around 5am after she woke to use the restroom.
one of us would be getting up near that time anyway we didn't make a big deal
about it. Sometimes Frances would go a week or more without joining us. If
sisters spend the night out she wants to sleep with us since our bedroom is
downstairs and Frances feels "lonely."
Frances is a very intelligent, organized child (aren't they all?). She is
particular about her appearance. She keeps her room very neat and she likes
keep everything else neat as well. This neatness has escalated since
she will walk in the house and start straightening everything, sweeping, etc.
Maybe she is a little OCD?
She does a good job with diabetes management considering her age. She likes
do site changes herself, she likes to manage her pump herself, etc. She does
well in school, plays several sports, does stuff with friends (less friend
visits this summer since many of her friends are at camps on or vacations),
fights with her sisters - pretty typical kid.
In the last two months or so, Frances wants to sleep with us every night. She
doesn't have a problem going to sleep in her own bed. She just wakes up every
night and joins us. We've tried limiting liquids at night, getting her new
sheets & comforter, rearranging her room to make it cozier, etc. My husband
I are usually so dead asleep that we don't even notice when she comes in. If
ask Frances about sleeping with us, she says she feels "better when I'm in
middle of Mom and Dad." She doesn't get upset if we talk about it (unless
her sisters comments). My husband and I don't treat her like a baby, she does
chores, is punished when necessary.
How do we reclaim our bedroom? I want Frances to feel safe by herself. I know
diabetes is a factor in this - perhaps the OCD is her way to gain control
her body has failed her. I'd appreciate your thoughts.
Thank you and have a blessed day,
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