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RE: [IP] Re: Diabetic Friends



I have always spent some time with them first and figured out if there was
anything about THEM that I couldn't handle.  Then, if I THEY made it past
that, I would share more of MY time with them and let them know I pretty
much do lead a normal life and take very good care of myself, and while it
IS a big deal, it doesnt have to be.  It's just more responsibility and
discipline which should be a plus on our part to show just how much
responsibility we can handle and how disciplined and strong we are.  I have
found that, by me turning around the situation, it has enabled me to weed
out the people who do not and can not me MY criteria, because after all you
do need someone supportive, strong, understanding, and POSITIVE.  There are
still way too many people (non-diabetic people) that have this tunnel vision
and ancient way of thinking when they hear the word DIABETES.  I just think
that it is very beneficial to take it in very slow steps as you shed the
light to someone new regarding our health responsibilities.   In all
situations, I wouldn't want someone to sit down and "throw-up" all of their
baggage, history, problems, etc. in the beginning.  This is only MY opinion
and what has worked for me.  

I am happily married and the mother of two.

Rhonda McClary
Dallas, Texas
email @ redacted

-----Original Message-----
From: jspock @shore.net [mailto:email @ redacted]
Sent: Tuesday, October 16, 2001 2:12 PM
To: email @ redacted
Subject: Re: [IP] Re: Diabetic Friends


>Is this a unique feeling?

Nope, I've done this to myself a lot and I've sabotaged several 
relationships (friends and otherwise) before they even start.

When I meet someone new, I always tell them right off that I have diabetes, 
Addison's Disease etc., because I don't want them to think I'm hiding 
anything, or that I've lied to them.

The reactions I get from that initial conversation generally decide for me 
whether or not I'm going to bother getting to know a person.

I figure that no one else should have to deal with my "baggage".  (I know we

all have baggage, to an extent, but I've always thought diseases are too 
much to ask someone else to deal with.

Maybe I'm wrong...  Other opinions?

Jenn
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MSN:  email @ redacted

"Open up your mind and let your fantasies unwind."
         ---"Music of the Night" "Phantom of the Opera"


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