[Previous Months][Date Index][Thread Index][Join - Register][Login]
[Message Prev][Message Next][Thread Prev][Thread Next]

Re: [IP] Spouse's feelings about pumping


Thank you. I think you are the only one that understood my post. You are
right. It is a matter of communicating our feelings. I am sure that after a
couple of weeks on the pump, she will love it! After all, I'm not crazy
about having the thing hooked to me, but I am excited about the control and
flexibility it will give me.

- -----Original Message-----
From: Crystal Carrier <email @ redacted>
To: email @ redacted <email @ redacted>
Date: Sunday, November 09, 1997 4:32 PM
Subject: Re: [IP] Spouse's feelings about pumping

>David wrote:
>> My wife is having a very hard time seeing me with a pump connected to me.
>> She is a nurse and understands how it is going to bennefit me, but still
>> sees it as a constant reminder of my diabetes. Are these feelings common?
>First, I have to say that I admire the fact that you and your wife have
>discussed your feelings honestly....not always easy to do. When the
>decision was made for me to start pumping I have to say that I was not
>concerned much with how my husband would feel about it. At the time I was
>totally frustrated with the MI and lack of control in the face of multiple
>complications.....I could see no other alternative and probably didn't care
>too much about how he felt.(became pretty selfish :-(  )
> I do know that he was getting worried that he was going to lose me soon,
>so I suppose even if he had some reservations he felt too as though we had
>little choice. We had also been married for 21 of my , at that time,  27yrs
>of diabetes......he had been through it all with me and then some! He had
>no idea what he was getting himself into when we got married....we were
>young and I seemed pretty healthy and through the yrs he seldom had to deal
>with my diabetes.
>For your wife it may be alot harder since she is a nurse and has seen
>first-hand what diabetes can and does do to someone. That might make her
>prefer to try and forget that you have this disease. I think you can help
>her and she can be a great support to you.....keep talking about both of
>your feelings. Once she sees how much better your control is and
>consequently your outlook on life, I believe she will become a
>*pump-promoter*. My husband has!
> > Do
>> they get better?
>Defintely! It is a change and all change can be unsettling at first. When
>all is said and done you will both wonder why you didn't do it sooner!
>Best of luck to you and your wife!
>type 1 29yrs
>email @ redacted