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Re: [IP] Relationship Discrimination?



I dated a guy for 10 months, started talking about the possibility for
marriage and everything- then I overheard him discussing his "doubts" with
his parents and whether or not he should date someone like me.  His parents,
who at the time I thought we very open-minded and understanding people,
actually told him it wasn't wise to date someone with diabetes because there
wasn't a future in it.  Well, now I am dating the most wonderful man- 2
years April 1- and his parents are pushing him to "hurry up and ask
already."  There are some things we need to work out as far as diabetes is
concerned, but he is always willing to try and understand and help where he
can.  The best thing is, I know he is not the only man in the world like
that.  The idiot who gave you up because he was ignorant and too lazy to put
some effort into your relationship is not worth your time.  Had you not had
diabetes, chances are there would have been another problem anyway.  Just
keep looking, and don't ever let anyone tell you that you are inferior
because of diabetes.
Good luck!!

Julie


----- Original Message -----
From: "Laura Barnett" <email @ redacted>
To: <email @ redacted>
Sent: Monday, March 05, 2001 4:15 PM
Subject: [IP] Relationship Discrimination?


> ** PRIVATE **
>
> I'm feeling so blue and I need to get this off my chest because it really
> hurts and I really hurt too.  I am 32 (33 tomorrow) and I've been dating a
guy
> for a year.  3 months ago we were planning a wedding, but he got scared
and
> asked that we postpone it.  In the meantime, I had an ingrown toenail that
got
> rather badly infected.  I saw the endo last week and she said that while
it is
> still aggravated and healing slowly, it is not infected and she will see
me
> again to check it in two weeks unless I call before.  My A1c was a 6.1 at
that
> visit and I have started working out again (2 weeks now) and overall, I
feel
> good about my control.  My kidneys are showing signs of nephropathy but my
> blood work is still in the normal range.
> To the point - he broke up with me this weekend and in the process said
that
> he just couldn't manage the stress of my illness.  That my toe getting
> infected had frightened him and he couldn't handle it.
> I feel reasonably sure that my heart is broken but my self-esteem is also
> shattered.  I know diabetes is a lot to take and if I could get up and
walk
> away from it I would.
> I am really afraid there will never be anyone for me.
> Has anyone else been through this?  I just need a little encouragement.
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