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Re: [IP] What not to say to a kid - the parent's perspective

Hey no problem.
As the saying goes "Bring a man a fish and he will have a meal, teach a man
to fish and he will not be hungry for life."  Ok I butchered the saying but
I got the right meaning.  Yes I went through a rebellion stage...towards my
parents as a typical teenage girl <vbg>, and towards my diabetes by not
testing very often at all.  I never skipped injections because it just made
me way too ill.  Looking back, there were weeks where I only tested once.  I
never figured out if it was true rebellion, or if I just didn't want to
know.  As a teenager my insulin needs doubled and I still had crazy highs.
My A1cs showed it.  They were 12,13 sometimes. EEEEEKKKK!  I still can't
believe it got that bad.  But the doctors never seemed to come up with a
better plan then try "harder".  What did they know.  Anyways, I snapped out
of it and started testing 3-4 times a day and my A1Cs dropped to the 8-9
range.  Now I am testing 8-15 times a day, started taking Humalog, and take
4-5 injections a day.  It seems to be getting better.  Lets see what the
next A1c says.  So yes, what my parents taught me was always in my head,
just not always in my mind. :)

-- Sherry
-----Original Message-----
From: John Bowen and Nancy Morgan <email @ redacted>
To: Insulin Pumpers <email @ redacted>
Date: Wednesday, July 14, 1999 5:18 PM
Subject: [IP] What not to say to a kid - the parent's perspective

>Thanks, Sherry, for acknowledging that your parents weren't just being a
>pain, they were actually trying to look after you, and were usually right
>about what you needed to do.  I read some of the posts with guilt, because
>I've said a whole lot of those things to Jenna, but I just want her to be
>healthy.  At 10, she's not very rebellious yet, but I guess it will
>But here's my question.  We started teaching Jenna the principles of tight
>control since she was diagnosed at 8 yo.  Lord knows, she has plenty of
>sugars that are out of target range, and I don't scold her at all for that,
>but I do make her tell me what we need to do about it, ie, develop an
>plan.  I think she now has internalized the message that we're always
>shooting for target range.  But she has two friends, 1 a year older and 1 a
>year younger than her, who were diagnosed as toddlers, and both on MDI
>this year.  Both of them regularly have sugars in the 200-400 range, and
>they just don't see a problem with that.  They have come to expect and
>accept poor control over the years.  Interestingly, neither of their
>have improved from the 8-9 range that they were pre-pump.  Do those of you
>who have done battle with DM since childhood think that the expectations
>your parents set helped  you to control your diabetes later in life
>(especially after "rebellion" was over)?  As St. Paul said, "Train up a
>child in the ways he should go..."
>I hope I am doing more right than wrong for Jenna, because I love her so
>much.   And I hope all of you that remember the things your parents said
>know that they probably did it out of love, too.
>Nancy Morgan, Jenna's mom
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