[IP] sleepovers and independence
I found myself feeling very overwhelmed by many of the parents' reactions on
the list to letting their children out of their sight or letting them spend
a night away from home. I am not, however, a parent myself yet...so I
know how I would react in a situation like this.
I do want to give the perspective from someone who was never given the
message that being a diabetic would limit or inhibit me from doing something
I wanted to do
Bravo Kate, your comments reflect my feelings totally. I think I know how
you will be as a parent. You will be just like your parents were with you.
You will let them live normal lives and encourage them to follow their
dreams. My parents were like yours. I have 2 children that I allowed to do the
same. As a parent, I did worry about my children, but not to the point of not
letting them live their life. If either did have diabetes, I would have been
no different. I personally think children with diabetes are smarter than
their peers, partially because they are forced to mature sooner in order to
understand their diabetes. I have had thousands of lows and thousands of highs
and I can tell you, that neither will come close to killing your child at a
sleepover. I think that the improved technology today with respect to pumps
and monitoring devices will help most children live normal life spans. I
have had diabetes for 45 years and I have had a good life.
Life has risks. I picked up a hitchhiker in the 70's who stole my insulin
and syringes. What did I learn? I learned not to pick up hitchhikers. I
ran out of insulin traveling through the Sinai desert? What did I learn? I
learned to make sure I always had enough insulin when I was traveling. I had
2 children when doctors advised me not to have any. What did I learn?
Doctors don't know everything and children are wonderful. To parents, I would
just like to say that you might be doing more harm by limiting your child's
activities than you would by allowing her to learn through experience how to
care of herself.
Kate, I am very proud of what you are doing in the Peace Corps. Good luck
to you. ellen
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