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Re: [IP] Sending son to dad's for court ordered visitation



Hi Lyndy,
My ex and I are currently in a bitter custody battle over my son, and I'm
trying to change the current 3 month stay to a one month visit here in TX.
At least that way I'll be close by in case he needs me.  But until that gets
changed, he may end up having to go for the summer.  At this point we can't
even talk without having an argument and I am scared to rely 100% on Jake to
know when to change his basals, or what to do about a bad site, or how to
count carbs at a restaurant.....I'm trying not to make myself sick over it.
I'm going to ask the pump trainer if she can recommend a pump trainer in IL
just in case the visitation doesn't get changed before he has to go to his
dad's for the summer.  But even then, I'm going to have a hard time, I'm
afraid.

Does your ex know how to care for your daughter while she's there?  Did you
worry when you first sent her?

Sean
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Sent: Thursday, January 17, 2002 6:10 PM
Subject: Re: [IP] Sending son to dad's for court ordered visitation


> My daughter goes to her dad's every other week (and even then, I have her
> before and after school weekdays those weeks), so my situation's somewhat
> different from yours.  BUT, I can definitely relate to your worries over
> whether your EX will be able to adequate care of your son while he's
there.
>
> I think the biggest questions you need to answer is what kind of father
your
> EX is and what kind of relationship do you have with him (can you talk
about
> your son's needs)?  Also, has he cared for your son since his diagnosis?
The
> answers to these kinds questions will define how you will go about making
> sure that your son remains safe and healthy while he is with his father.
>
> For example, if you really can't talk to your ex without it turning into
an
> argument, you might want to put together a package of written materials
and
> videos about diabetes care and pump management to mail to him.  Or,
consider
> having your CDE or pump rep contact him to arrange for a pump trainer in
his
> area to give him training.
>
> Once your son starts pumping, I think you'll be surprised how quickly your
> son, even though he's only 8, will become pretty self-sufficient with
> operating his pump, counting carbs, and doing set/cartiridge changes.  If
you
> can focus on helping him to gain confidence in the mechanics of these
things,
> then "training" your EX long distance gets simpler because you can focus
on
> "decision making" types of care issues (what to do when he's low, high,
etc.)
> instead of the details of "how" to do each little thing.
>
> I hope this is at least a little bit helpful for you.  If you can tell me
a
> little bit more about the situation, I can give you more detail about some
of
> the materials I've given my EX . . . Good luck!
>
> Lyndy
> Pumpmama to katie
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