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Re: [IP] Re: decision to have children

I had to respond after all of the messages I've read about having a baby.  I
agree with one other message writer that you make the  choice first and deal
with everything else next. Just like everyone else in this world.

I had an amnio eight years ago to see if my son's lungs were developed. I
have several medical problems and it would of been a wise choice to deliver
a couple of days earlier for his health and mine.  So we were checking to
see if he was ready to come into this world.  Sometimes it's done for the
health of the child and the Mom. We were looking for things that were right
not wrong.  I found a very right beautiful baby boy who was 10lbs, 8 oz.
(Diabetic water weight that has gone)  He now is a very typical  8 year old
boy who loves baseball and  Pok'man.

----- Original Message -----
From: Kerri <email @ redacted>
To: <email @ redacted>
Sent: Thursday, December 14, 2000 12:30 PM
Subject: [IP] Re: decision to have children

> I am not diabetic but because I've reached the magical "advanced
> maternal age" of 35, I was offered an amnio for this pregnancy. I
> refused it AND the AFP test (which is notorious for false
> positives.) My mother had a fit and told tell me you "have" to do
> the amnio once you're 35 (and apparently my older sister's dr
> *made* her get one when she was over 35.) Oh, really? It was
> offered to me as an OPTION which implies I have a choice. I opted
> for a level II US instead (it turned out to be a level III.) I
> later had a fetal (echocardiogram? It was just for the heart) US
> which, combined with the first US, reduced my odds for
> abnormalities *considerably.* I know amnios are indicated for
> some people and they should be done for them. I just don't
> believe in "one size fits all" obstetrical care and felt that,
> after doing the research and weighing the risks vs benefits, the
> amnio and AFP could not be justified in *my* case.
> Faith said:
> I had one amnio while pg with Zachary.  I have often regreted it.
> I risked losing Z just to find out if he would have had some
> chromosome
> abnormality.  I would not have chosen to terminate the pregnancy
> and now
> think I wouldn't have an amnio again.  They can't make you do
> it.  I often
> think the medical community can't fathom that some people
> wouldn't terminate
> a pregnancy no matter what was wrong with the baby.
> Maybe try talking to your dr about this and give him/her your
> reasons for not
> wanting the test.  They should listen to you.
> --
> Take care, Kerri, alulitsuti (mother of many children) & the
> little guy due 3/10/01
> http://www.geocities.com/southard8/photos.html
> "There is a special magic and holiness about the girl and woman.
> They are the bringers of life to the people, and the teachers of
> the little children." - Sweet Medicine, Cheyenne
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