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Re: [IP] Decision to have children
I feel a strong need to express my opinion and please please remember this
is strictly my opinion and I am not passing judgement or saying what is
right for anyone.
>chelsey 7yo dxed 9/99 and nathan 4yo 2/97
This one brought tears to my eyes and as I write this I am still crying. I
am thrilled that all of you who have chosen to have kids that end up
developing diabetes are dealing with it. I really do mean that. I guess
my heart goes out to the child for I can better relate to them in a sense
since I was diagnosed young too.
I was diagnosed at the age of 2, well I got out of the hospital on the my
3rd birthday 1963. When I first realized where babies came from I vowed
that I would never have a child from this body. I never ever wanted to
pass this disease on to another human being. I am also VERY grateful that
I never allowed myself to get in a position of becoming pregnant so that I
would have to decide to terminate the pregnancy.
I realize things have greatly improved for the care of diabetes, but bottom
line this disease is life threatening and can be very difficult to live
with let alone when a person begins to have complications. I also belive
that an individual who is diagnosed at a very young age vs someone who is
diagnosed at a later age, makes it much more difficult and have been told
this by medical professionals as well as psychiatrist. I am not trying to
imply I am worse off than anyone else, I just believe it's different the
way you cope and what your childhood is like depending on when diagnosed.
I do realize that for some having children is very important and there are
no guarantees that a child of a person with diabetes will get diabetes, but
for me I never wanted to take that chance. I am grateful that I didn't
have to spend 20 grand in therapy to get through not "being able" to have
children. I will never understand the strong need to have them and that is
ok, well I think so. :-)
I probably would have adopted if I had settle down at a younger age, but
who knows, and now with my health and complications, I just couldn't be a
mom to a human child and do a good job, so I choose to take in every stray
cat and be a mom to them :-)
Fran, who is up to 9 and counting.
ps. Please remember to respect for my opinion as I am respecting all of yours.
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