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Re: [IP] The decision to have children



Sherry, continue with your belief.  I agree with you 100%.

Rhonda


>From: "Sherry Compton" <email @ redacted>
>Reply-To: email @ redacted
>To: email @ redacted
>Subject: [IP] The decision to have children
>Date: Fri, 08 Dec 2000 08:48:10 -0600
>
>"The attitude that really burns me, though, is "you shouldn't
>have children because you might pass on a genetic tendency
>for diabetes," which I've gotten in overt or implied form on
>numerous occaisions -- once from my own father. I know
>that for some people with diabetes, the desire not to pass on
>the disease is part of their decision not to have children, and
>I respect that. Just as long as it's a real choice -- no pressure
>to practice self-eugenics!"
>
>/Janet L.
>
>I don't think I've ever gotten this attitude from anyone.  I did go through 
>a
>stage of not wanting children in my early teens, though. I was going 
>through a
>lot of depression and self-pity with poor control over my numbers, and I
>thought to myself, "You shouldn't have kids.  How are you going to handle 
>the
>guilt if you give this to a baby?  Can you give a shot to a baby?"  But if 
>you
>look at all the problems in my family history--extreme nearsightedness,
>clinical depression, heart disease, stroke, thyroid problems, 
>alcoholism--is
>the chance for having Diabetes really any worse?  Should anyone have kids 
>if
>they have any history of any type of medical problems? I mean, if you knew 
>for
>sure, if you had it on the best authority that any child you  had would 
>suffer
>from horrible pain and illness all of its life, then you probably wouldn't
>have children.  But to not have children on the off chance that they might
>someday get sick? Don't kids get sick with no history of illness in their
>family? I feel like I have a lot of love to give, and that's what kids 
>really
>need to be happy. And if my child does inherit the tendency to be Diabetic,
>we'll handle it.  I think my child will be luckier than the child whose
>parents are hit unaware.
>I don't wish I had never been born just because of this disease. I think of
>all the things I would have missed if I wasn't here, and I think life is
>beautiful sometimes. Not all the time.  But it's worth the moments of pain 
>and
>uncertainty to get to that beauty.
>And I can't wait until my child is here to see it too.
>I will be damned if anyone will tell me that I should not be having this 
>baby!
>
>Sherry C.
>From the massive city of Bowling Green, KY
>Impatiently waiting for little Emma Skye/William Sean to hatch
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