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Re: [IP] help with 16 year old daughter!!
I just wanted to say that while I agree that counseling/social
workers/psychologists/etc. are WONDERFUL, and can do great work for some
teens, I think you need to look at who your daughter is and whether or not
she would be comfortable with talking to these people. I'm saying this from
a biased standpoint, of course, and please don't take offense!!! I'm
22...when I was in my teens, I didn't necessarily hide my diabetes from
friends; but I sure did from anyone else! And yep, I avoided testing,
talking about "numbers," etc. I think it is a part of the whole "teenage
rebellion thing." I also think that it is true that people do outgrow
it...although I admit, looking back, that I probably scared my parents half
to death in the process! Anyway, my point is that I know I would not have
talked to anyone I regarded as a "shrink" in that case. Yes, I know not all
those people are shrinks, but try explaining that to a 16 year old who is
trying so hard to be "normal." That's just my take on it. If your daughter
is willing to talk to someone, I encourage you to do that wholeheartedly.
Just don't force it on her...if you do, I am afraid that it might backfire.
Also, by the way, I found that the "support group" suggestion that was made
by one member is really great! I never had one, but I wish I did...some
older girl to talk to would have really helped me I think. Or even someone
my age going through the same thing. I know it helped a few kids at a
school where my dad is a counselor. At this middle school, he had about 10
kids with various health problems. Diabetes included. He basically put them
into a group, and it really helped all of them. I also spoke with this
group (there were 3 girls with diabetes, and my dad asked me if I would mind
talking to them), and you'd be surprised at some of the questions that came
up! It helped me (I was 19-20 at the time) just as much as it helped the
kids I think.
Anyway, sorry this is so long! Just some of my feelings on it. Tricia
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