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Re: [IP] help with 16 year old daughter!!



Spot made some great suggestions but I would like to add to that.... A
clinical social worker or psychologist would also have experience in this
situation.

If you are from a large area are their other girls her age also diabetic at
school? You might be able to talk with the social worker or psycholgist at
her school in starting a peer support group. Talk to her endo there maybe a
slightly older girl that lives near by that been through this that can help
Gail
----- Original Message -----
From: "Andrew Bender (spot)" <email @ redacted>
To: "email @ redacted" <email @ redacted>
Sent: Sunday, April 14, 2002 10:31 PM
Subject: [IP] help with 16 year old daughter!!


> From: email @ redacted
> Subject: [IP] help  with 16 year old daughter!!
>
> I need some help and don't know what to do with my 16 year old daughter.
> When she was younger she was so good about always taking her meter with
her
> and doing her blood sugar and not caring what people think.  But now that
> she
> is in high school, it is like she is ashamed of her diabetes.  She hardly
> ever takes her meter when she goes places and is not very good about doing
> her blood sugar before she drives.  She even lies to me occassionally and
> will say she has her meter when in fact she doesn't.
>
> I don't know how to handle this.  She is such a good kid.  She is an A
> student and doesn't drink or cause us any problems except, that I wish she
> wouldn't worry so much about other people knowing she has diabetes.  Her
AIC
> has been slowly creeping up to.  It is usually around 6.3 but the last 2
> dr's
> appointments it has been 7.5 and I don't think it will be any lower this
> time
> either.
>
> Thanks for the help!
> Anne
> - ----------------------------------------------------------
> It would appear that your daughter is ashamed of her diabetes, not unusual
> in teen age girls. It occurs in boys as well but usually at a younger
> age.Confrontation at home is not likely to change anything much. I
strongly
> suggest you discuss her feelings of shame and sadness without guilt or
> recrimination. If you are unable to do this and most parents are not able
to
> because it is an emotionally charged issue and often parents have guilt
> about, "giving their child diabetes" then i suggest psychiatric
intervention
> with someone skilled at dealing with adolecent diabetic girls, a difficult
> specialist to find. Usually girls relate better to female psychiatrists.
If
> you have problems locating one in your area, the ADA has a directory of
> medical specialists who specialize in  diabetic problems. girls at this
age
> are already in an emotional turmoil.  spot (who had 2 daughters go thru
this
> stuff)
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