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[IP] Please stop ...

Kim, can we please drop this.  You gave your opinion and I have a right to
give mine.  We obviously don't agree and that's fine, but there's no need to
send threatening letters.  I'd appreciate it if we could move past this.

Thank you.
Tara Dufour, IDDM 15 years, pumping 9 days.

----- Original Message -----
From: Kim Hughes <email @ redacted>
To: Tara Dufour <email @ redacted>
Sent: Saturday, April 17, 1999 11:05 PM
Subject: Re: Sleeping with my baby

> Dear Tara,
> It is too bad that you will be subjecting your child to undue risk because
> you fail to recognize the possibility of doing great harm to them by
> sleeping with them.  I know that millions of mothers have slept with their
> children and have not suffered any consequences.  But by the same token,
> millions of children ride a bicycle without a helmet and do not suffer
> brain damage.  Unfortunately, hundreds of children do suffer and their
> suffering was totally preventable.  Why put a fence around a swimming
> Most kids won't drown.  Why bother to wear a seatbelt?
> Your hateful letter back to me was uncalled for and unwarranted, as you
> know by some of the e-mails you have received regarding it.  As I said in
> my public apology to you I did not intend to hurt your feelings.  I
> intentionally left your name off of my comment because I did not want to
> embarrass you.  By your public "whipping" of me you made yourself look
> small and vengeful.
> Obviously you need to justify your actions.  I am sure you will find
> comfort in those "expert's" advice when you role over onto your baby or
> accidentally move a pillow or covers over her face.
> Caring for an infant is exhausting.  Trust me, I know.  My own children
> deserved the best that I could give them.  You are going to find that many
> people are going to give you unsolicited advice.  You need to act like an
> adult and graciously listen to the advice.  These people are only trying
> help.  If you do not like the advice then be polite, I know that will be
> hard for you, say thank you and move one.  As I said before, my advice was
> not directed specifically to you.  But I will address this advice to you,
> you need to thicken your skin a little bit.  By refusing to even
> acknowledge the potential for danger you are putting your child at undue
> risk.  I truly hope that my words do not echo in the back of your mind at
> some time in the future because you have killed your child.
> I will chalk your hateful response up to immaturity and hormones as
> obviously you need grow up.  I hope it is before the birth of your child.
> But then maybe you could grow up together.
> Kim Hughs

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